You made it very clear how parents can use the pain of the past to make a safe and better life for kids. I ascribe to the 'toolbox' idea-- that whatever we have experienced goes into our toolbox, and we use it when we have kids. Some of the things in there are too hurtful to be useful. But some of the worst things can be used positively.

Also the writing is clear and real. I find them easy to believe in.